Ever since I can remember I’ve been bothered by little children being neglected and/or abused. Especially infants!!
If you’ve paid even a moderate amount of attention to the news in recent years you should have noticed that the incidence of teenagers (and younger) girls having babies has risen to an alarming rate.
First of all it used to be a stigma to have a baby out of wedlock. Now, it seems, that having babies out of wedlock is seen as almost popular. But to give these procreating individuals credit, at least they chose to have the baby and not have it cut into small pieces and vacuumed out of their body. Credit given.
I think there is enough “blame” to go around but for the most part the responsibility falls squarely on parents. Period! Just take a look at the number of marriages that fail. It is difficult to parent a child properly when the child sees their mommy and daddy doing what pleases them most. They “fall out of love” or one or the other parent cheats and a nasty divorce insues.
What are these children supposed to learn from such self centered, I deserve to be happy no matter who else gets hurt attitudes?
Still… the guys who impregnate these young girls really disgust me. In some circles it’s almost like a badge of honor as too how many girls one boy/young man can impregnate. Truly disgusting if you ask me. Little thought seems to be given to the life that mother and baby is doomed to live. No father around so they end up on public assistance or living with their mother.
Then “The System” seems to punish the woman if she does want to get married. In order to better support their baby these mothers may want to marry the father but if they do marry then they somehow disqualify for public housing. So some of these fathers end up living in public housing with the baby and the baby’s mama until it’s time for the monthly inspection. Then the father has to find some place to hold up for a day or two.
In the end the one who suffers most are the babies… the children.
These young girls who get pregnant and the boys who impregnate them may or may not know how to use a condom. In all likely-hood they know how but choose not to. They can write obscene language on a bathroom wall but can’t write a complete sentence. They know how to find the free clinic but are unwilling to make it to school on a regular basis. At some point “The System” needs to be looked at. Why should those of us who work every day be saddled with the expense of those who seem to have recreational sex, get pregnant, have babies and hold their hands out and say “help me!”?
Perhaps when a woman on public assistance already has a child and she gets pregnant the DNA of all the babies she has after getting into the system should be put into some data base. Then when the baby’s daddy shows up HE can be held financially responsible. If either or both parents are minors then I say don’t give them any financial assistance except food vouchers for the baby.
This may seem judgemental or even harsh but so what! Something needs to be done to save the next generation. I very seriously this little Blog post will save any babies but it’s a bit thereputic for me.
Now go out there and mentor a child!