Recently I’ve gotten myself into a couple of “intense discussions.” Both times it started with “the other person” using the “F” word. Both of these “discussions” happened on Facebook and the persons are friends of my friends. One person used the word while the other person began with the “F” but then used other characters on the key board to finish “spelling” it out. Like that’s somehow more acceptable.
The thing that I found most disconcerting about these two incidents is that both people were female! That’s just so foreign to me that I was just flabbergasted by the incidents. “Get over yourself” one woman told me. The other woman asked me if I had ever heard of the First Amendment (not very condecending at all). She further called me a Neanderthal.
Get over myself? I’m still not sure I know what she meant by that remark. First Amendment, right? Sure we (as citizens of the United States of America) have the right to free speech. However, my point was that just because we have the right to do something and we are physically able to do it does not mean that we should do it! I mean she has the right to eat four dozen doughnuts a day every day but I’ll bet she doesn’t. She also has the right to give all her money to needy people but I’ll bet she doesn’t do that either.
I’m just baffled as to when it became in vogue for seemingly well educated adults to throw around curse words… especially the “F” word. And women at that!! Both of these women are college educated and it seems to me that they should have learned how to better express themself or at least have a more acceptable list of words to express their frustration(s) or anger. But hey, maybe I’m giving education too much credit.
Perhaps the manner in which a person conducts them self is more about lifestyle than it is education. Maybe it’s just coincidental that both of these women belong to the same political party. Maybe it’s just coincidental that both of these women express the same values regarding “religion.”
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that these women are “bad people”. What I am saying is that they don’t put forth a very lady-like appearance when they lay hold of their First Amendment right and let the four letter words fly. What ever happened to women wanting to be lady-like? Do they think they are cool? Do they feel like they have to speak that way to be accepted in certain groups? Could it be as simple as a “bad habit” that has gone on for so long that they don’t recognise how it makes them sound/look to most people. But I can hear “them” now, “My friends talk like I do and it’s not a big deal.” Well if it’s really not a big deal then why don’t they speak like that ALL THE TIME?! I mean if, for instance, they are employed in a professional office setting do they let the four letter words fly in their office? How about while they are talking to their peers, customers or even their supervisor? Highly unlikely. So then, the “Cursers” really do know that that type of speech is unacceptable. Seems a little two faced to me too speak one way with one group of people and then to clean it up and speak a different way… when it will affect your income.
You know, honestly, I can’t remember the last time I heard someone actually say “that word.” I’m okay with that too. I guess the ole saying “birds of a feather flock together” is accurate… coincidentally.
So, in closing, I guess I’ll admit to being a Neanderthal-Traditionalist.