I’ve grown a bit tired of poor and harmful lifestyle decisions being labled a disease. Give me a friggin break! You eat too much. It’s not your fault, it’s a disease. You drink too much. It’s not your fault, it’s a diesase. You do drugs. It’s not your fault, it’s a disease.
Well (personally) I come from a long line of alchoholics. I remember watching my grandfather hide his bottle so my grandmother couldn’t find it. I remember, all to vividly, watching my father… Then there were my poor choices. Eventually I ended up going through a drug and alcohol (in patient) treatment facility in the mid 1980s. I never did like that “One Day at a Time” bull. I knew what I was doing but I didn’t care. I wanted to enjoy myself. But the day came that I realized that I had to make better decisions for myself and my family. So I did. Period.
Now here is what I am struggling with at this time. If you’ve read this Blog then you know what is going on so please forgive the quick review.
On the 29th of this month we are to sign the adoption for our “new kids”. We have had them since May of 2006. In February our little girl turned seven years old and this month our little boy turned five years old.
We intiially got involved with this family when our little girl was four months old. We were asked to help a single dad with a four month old baby during the summer while my wife was out of school. We would go and pick the baby up around 6:20 am and bring her back in the evening about the same time. At times we would keep her overnight and/or weekends just to give the bio-dad a break. Plus we had grown to love the baby.
Over time we found out that the reason the bio-dad had the baby on his own was that the bio-mom (while pregnant) got intoxicated and ran over a pedesterian and killed him. She was subsequently convicted of vehicular homicide and had the baby while in prison.
So bio-mom gets out of prison when the baby is about a year old. The bio-mom/dad get back together, she gets pregnant and has the little boy. He’s born addicted to drugs! The mom admits to the Social Workers that she had been smoking pot, drinking alcohol and smoking all throughout the pregnancy. When the little boy was born the doctors noticed that he had breathing difficulties. Tests were run and he tested positive for “canabinoid” (pot).
The bio-mom was still on probabition from the previous conviction of vehicular homicide when the baby boy was born.
The hospital ran the tests. Don’t they have an obligation to report that to the authorities?
The Social Services worker was aware of the test results. Isn’t Social Services obligated to report drug abuse/child endangerment to the proper authorities?
I read our little boys medical record where it documents that he had difficulty breathing. That he tested positive for drugs. That he was rooting around in his crib flailing his extremities.
First the bio-mom failed to protect the baby.
Next the hospital failed to protect the baby.
Then the Social Services worker failed to report and protect the baby.
Now am I supposed to just ignore these facts? Or am I supposed to take more aggressive action? What if this woman becomes impregnated again and is still living the lifestyle of a drug abuser? Will that baby’s addiction be partly my fault for failing to report the bio mom?
The easy thing would be to just ignore it. I never have been one for taking the easy way out.