Maybe I’m delusional but I think we’ve jumped through all the hoops. Today we attended our last “Parenting Class”. Yesterday the lady who was doing our “Home Study” called to say that she had completed the report and had dropped it off at the DSS Adoption Office.
The thing that annoyed me most about the “Home Study” is that they needed to speak with my grief counselor. https://mssc54.wordpress.com/our-american-hero/ She said that her supervisor thought that being in grief counseling for nearly two years was a bit much. They just need to speak with my counselor to make sure that I’m not a danger to myself or 0thers. I can certainly understand why there would be a concern but give me a friggn break. We’ve had the kids for 34 months now!
Our “Parenting Class” was a bit enlightening too. When we went around the table introducing ourselves and saying why we are there it was a bit heart warming. People saying how much they love children and want to help needy, abused or abandoned children… Awwww.
However, it wasn’t long before most of the people showed their true colors. They want to help the needy, abused or abandoned children as long as those same children fit nicely into the mold they had predetermined. A certain race with no emotional, psychological or physical disabilities. I wonder if it was as clear to others as it was to me. Most of those people were there for what those children could do for them! They want a large family. They can’t have children. They want little Johnny or Susie to have a little brother or sister. It was like they thought DSS is like a human pet store. You know, where you can go down and place your order or look at pictures and pick out the cute little one you want to take home to make your life complete. Honestly, it kinda ticked me off just a bit.
What makes these people different from the biological parents? Except for the fact that those at the “Parenting Class” were not the ones who physically abused, neglected, etc. the children there wasn’t a bit of difference. Their attitudes were the same; expecting children to be what their idea of perfect little people should be. Unbelievable.
Today we were handed a sheet of paper that listed the statistics of children available for adoption in the entire state. Heartbreaking. I also learned that caucasion children over the age of ten, black children over the age of six and children with siblings are all considered “special needs.” They consider these children “special needs” because they are the most difficult to place into adoptive homes.
I can’t believe that we are considering becoming Foster Parents now! Heck, maybe even adopting more children has not been ruled out. If we didn’t have to deal with DSS on a regular basis it would be a no brain-er. I’ll bet if you give us a few months to get over the trauma of dealing with such a dysfunctional agency we’ll be right back in there wanting to know what needs we can help with.