I’ve been seeing (in various venues) encouragement for people to reach beyond their own family to provide for the needs of the less fortunate. We are encouraged to look beyond our own family circles too care for the homeless, the unemployed, strangers and for the less fortunate.
That sounds all well and good. I mean who could come up with a legitimate argument for not helping those in need?
Something occurred to me. These groups of people who we are encouraged to help (outside of our own families)… aren’t they members of someones family?
I know that there are many varied reasons why people find themselves in need of a helping hand.
What ever happened to families taking care of families? When did we become so disgusted with our own “kin-folk” that we would rather leave them to the graces of complete strangers?
Look, my family tree is just as dysfunctional as the next. But that doesn’t mean that I would allow them to become like the woman in this photo.
I know, I know, some people just refuse to accept help. I know, sometimes you need to demonstrate “tough love”. I know sometimes our ‘kin folk” just ask to be ignored.
But what does that say about us? That we are willing to “show them” how screwed up they are by letting them sleep on the streets or the like?
I’m not talking about the alcoholic or drug abuser or the mentally challenged either. I’m talking about the person who was living pay check to pay check and then found themselves unemployed.
So let me ask you; when you do give to charities or a needy person, are there qualifiers? Do you need to know how it is they got into the situation they find themselves in?
The problem with helping family is that we are too familiar with them. We deem them undeserving of our help. After all if they would have just done this or that; if t hey would have just said this or that; if they would have only listened to us when we espoused our wisdom on their behalf, then perhaps they wouldn’t need the help of strangers.
So basically, family be damned and let us all help the stranger?