Family Court

Today was yet another day in Family Court (to get up to speed look at my last post under “adoption”).  Our trial was supposed to begin at 9:30 but we didn’t even enter the court room until 10:45.   The mother voluntarily relinquished her parental rights so this trial was too go over the bio-dad’s parental “fitness”.  An hour and a half later the judge found under about (literally) five or six state statutes that the bio-dad was unfit to maintain his parental rights.

Instead of giving us sole custody the judge granted us joint custody with the Department of Social Services (DSS).  However, DSS is no longer required to do home visits.  Yea says our case worker, who has had this case for a bit over four years.  Poor thing, it looked like both stacks of that case file weighed more than she did. lol  Another ruling I found most interesting is that since the bio-mom was using drugs when was pregnant with our now 4 year old the judge orded the DSS to report that to the solicitor’s office.  Additionally during these proceedings the judge found out that when the bio-mom was pregnant with the now 6 year old she was convicted of vehicular homicide for killing a pedestrian with her car.  So our little girl was born in prison.  That’s a great birth certificate!  The judge also ordered that a check be made to see if she was, in fact, in violation of her parole (since she was using drugs just after being released from prison).

So any way as I understand it now each parent has 30 days to appeal the judges ruling.  Oh! I forgot to mention, the bio-dad didn’t even show up for court today.  But if you ask him… he loves his kids.  Just don’t make him stop doing his drugs and beating up his wife.

I can’t believe that this case has taken so long.  Has it occurred to any one else that puppies and kittens have more rights than little children?!


5 Responses to Family Court

  1. Lindsey says:

    Wow… I’m glad everything is working out for you guys. Sounds like those kids really need someone to love them and give them stability- I’m glad the courts can see that, too.

  2. mssc54 says:

    Yes they do and thank you. I was really impressed by this judge (not so much the three previous judges). He said he in the beginning of our trial that he rarely terminated both parents rights. I kind of puckered up at that statement. His rational was that if he were to terminate both parents rights and one of the children developed some sort of disease or genetic disorder that is not showing up now that the adoptive family may just bring them back to DSS and turn them in. It didn’t take him long to figure out how committed we are to these children. The toughest part for my wife was when our attorney had her on the stand and said something like “I understand that your family suffered a tradgedy this last year? Your son-in-law was killed in Afghanistan.” My poor wife just broke down in tears, bless her heart. I understand he had to do that in order to demonstrate to the judge that we weren’t in it as long as things are all fun and smooth. The judge actually smiled at us and wished us luck at the end of the proceedings.

  3. Amber says:

    Aint that the truth. Animals are given far more compassion than humans at times. Sheesh. God bless you for opening your hearts and home to these beautiful children. I am envious…

  4. Violet says:

    The Lord is gracious in so many ways. I wish you all the best as you raise those two little ones. Sometimes it seems so hard to know what the children have gone through and it really breaks my heart to see our little girl have to deal with issues that no child should have to deal with! Yet I know the Lord has it all in His control and loves her even more than we do! Thanks for sharing!

  5. mssc54 says:

    Violet; we are fortunate (or unfortunate depending on you view) to have known this family. The bio mom and dad had worn the family out and they didn’t want them, so we took them in.

    Be blessed in the nurturing of your new daughter.

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